Talking Back to Your Fear Narrator & Telling Your Story
July 31, 2019
We tell ourselves stories; These stories can, at times, be truths about our lives or accounts of dreams of where we’d like our lives to go.
These stories can also be just that: stories.
My brain likes to default to the narrative that I didn’t earn my place, my current situation, my partner’s affection, my friendships, etc.
As I stood on top of a ladder, shooting marketing photos for a business launch for the third time now and was asked my opinion on paint colors and wall decor, the fear narrator in my brain started speaking about all the ways I’d faked my way here.
Your fear narrator, and mine, is like that older kid at camp telling ghost stories. It feeds off your energy and your attention. Once you stop giving your fear narrator the reaction it wants, it gets bored. It gets quieter and quieter.
You’re not going to get rid of your fear narrator, just like you can’t get rid of the big kids at camp or your pesky older sibling, but you can stop giving it the reaction it wants. You choose to walk away and put your attention elsewhere.
𝐏𝐮𝐭 your attention, and your fear, into something productive. Do it scared. Fear has a lot of energy attached to it and where there is energy, there is always motion waiting to happen (#lifephysics). Rather than feed that energy right back into what’s keeping you stuck, redirect it towards what will keep you in motion: speak it to a friend or, better yet, a role model, let it drive you to check out a book and do research, take all that fear energy and dance it out.
𝐓𝐞𝐥𝐥 yourself a different story. Tell it louder than your fear narrator. Down out the ideas that you faked it or stumbled your way here with glorious tales of how you triumphantly marched up to this moment and took it by storm. If your tires of fables and dramas, then start writing adventures, fantasies, and comedies about your life. You might just look back and realize you were writing the guidebook all along.