Hump Day Headspace: the problem with that New York City tagline
August 16, 2017
The City That Never Sleeps. It's romantic. It's awe-inspiring. It's thrilling. It's exhausting.
I've never been all that into New York City. As far as big cities go, I'm more of a Chicago girl. There's just something about that midwestern pace of life.
Wait, what's that? Oh. Just the sound of my East Coast relatives rolling over in their graves. Moving on.
Those cliché posters and self-help books tell us to go at own pace, but the truth of the matter is that life isn't like a treadmill; we can't always set the pace ourselves. We can't always control when opportunities and challenges come into our lives and the line between exhilarating and overwhelming can often be frighteningly thin. Let's say you want to have a baby. You've decided that you're financially and emotionally read for a child, so you go to the baby store (yes, the baby store). When you arrive, the woman at the counter tells you that you're such a qualified, lovely candidate for a parent that the store would like to offer you four additional free babies with the purchase of your one baby.
That's a lot of babies. And a lot of money. And a lot of ...well, you get my point. Just because things are happening at an intoxicating pace, doesn't mean you have to be excited about it.
Your preferred pace is still your pace. Wanting just one baby (or client, or challenge) at a time is okay. Life might not always cooperate but that doesn't mean you have like it. Life will speed up, slow down, and throw you curveballs. And you'll need to adjust... but you can still prefer it otherwise. You can still prefer Chicago over New York.
There are cities that never sleep, and parents with eight kids by the age of 22, and business owners with all the clients right now, and people who figure it out over night.
But there's also the Midwest, and single-child families, and slow-building businesses, and people who are working at it one piece at a time.