Hump Day Headspace: it's all about the "rest & rally"
July 12, 2017
Happy Hump Day!
There is a difference between being in pain and being uncomfortable. I've been thinking about that balance quite a bit this week. I said it to a my cycle class on Sunday morning during a particularly challenging hill. I asked them to push a bit further, but also to respect their limits.
That can be really hard — and I'm speaking personally. As much as I know and preach the practice of nonviolence to ourselves and others, I have a hard time differentiating "pain" from "discomfort" at times. I usually start seeing the difference after the fact, once the pain has been inflicted and I'm left nursing my wounds. I think that's when a lot of us have our "aha!" moment and we're left with a whole bunch of "would have" and "should have." The thing about discomfort is that it shouldn't leave you wounded. Being uncomfortable is a temporary feeling. It ends when the moments ends (and if we're lucky it turns flows into growth).
Think about all the times you've been uncomfortable; socially, physically, emotionally, and the moments that followed. Most of the time (not all), they're followed by discovery. You learn that a task isn't as daunting as it looked, you learned that you are stronger than you thought, and you learned that life goes on.
Pain is different. Burning, breaking, pinching, ignoring your mental health to the point of harm... those are not things you want to sit with. Those are not things that make you stronger.
The line between discomfort and pain can get a little blurry at times. I (and I think I'm not the only one) have a tendency to process exhaustion as "discomfort' rather than "pain" and push through it, even to the point of harm — but exhaustion can be painful.
The key, I'm learning, is what I've dubbed the "Rest & Rally."
We live in a world where we're constantly told to do more and to do it better. That's exhausting. Not every piece of work can be our best, and the more we throw onto our plates, the harder good, authentic work is to create. Once our work starts to suffer, it creates a vicious cycle where we try to make up for subpar work with more work, which is equally subpar because we're ignoring the real reason for our shortcomings: we're tired.
This is why we *should* vacation. This is why we *should* sleep. This is why we *should* turn our phones off after 7pm and tell the rest of the world to just cool it with the whole needing-your-fantastic-brain thing. This is why we rest.
We rest so that we can rally.
We flake on our friends and stay in bed, and rub weird, overpriced masks onto our faces so that once we're feeling Wonder Womanly again, we get up and get back to creating magic.
Yesterday was my rally day. Yesterday I had the pleasure of photographingLaura Jarzab, a central Ohio yoga instructor, and our session (much like a perfect yoga class) was a fun as it was restorative. Keep an eye out for the rest of the photos from our shoot later and catch Laura teaching at Speakeasy Yogain downtown Dayton or LA Fitness in Centerville. After our shoot, I kept the magic flowing with a productive day at my full-time job, a magical yoga class from the amazing Sara Barry at Day Yoga, and by baking Sea Salt Caramel Chocolate Chip Cookies (oh yes, they're as good as they sound). My point? Rest, y'all. Rest when you need to so you can rally for the things that matter. Rally for the yoga and cookies.